ed and artless; you can study her mind and character better; you can make your inquiries of others, and obtain honest answers. Having made your choice, and obtained the object of your desire, let it be your ambition that both she, and those who gave her to you, may ever find increasing cause to rejoice in the union.

HINTS TO YOUNG HUSBANDS.

MARRIED life is not always as happy as it might be, and those who have at first resolved to live for each other, sometimes end their career in mutual dislike. But if it does not come to this, there are often little disagreements, misunderstandings, and troubles, which destroy the peace of married people; and in general the fault is to be traced to a want of consideration, a little

precipitancy of action on one side or the other. Half the success of married life depends upon the attention paid to trifles. Uniform kindness of manner is a sure method of preserving domestic quiet.

'Husbands should always regard their wives as equals, and treat them with kindness, respect, and attention. They should never address them with an air of authority, nor as a master, nor interfere with domestic concerns, the employment or discharge of ser

vants.

The wife should always be supplied with money in proportion to her husband's means, that she may procure those things indispensable to the table and for her personal comfort. Her reasonable wishes should be cheerfully complied with; temper never should be shown at those slight irregularities in the domestic arrangements which will occasionally occur in families, and are often unavoidable. If the wife be a strong-minded and prudent woman, she is her husband's best coun

sellor, and should be consulted in every difficulty. Many a man has been saved from ruin by this course, and many an one ruined by not adopting it. If the husband's circumstances are embarrassed, she should know it; as women, who are kept in ignorance of them, often expend money which they would not do if they knew the truth.

A wife should never be rebuked or chidden in company for any little mistakes in conversation, or any other cause. Some men do this constantly, and strike a keener dart at the feelings of a sensitive woman, than they would by a sharp rebuke in private. Anything like an exposure of ignorance in company, impairs her respect for herself and the good opinion entertained of her by others.

You may have great trials and perplexities in your business, and in your intercourse with the world; but do not therefore carry to your home a clouded or contracted brow. Your wife

may have had trials, which, though of less magnitude, may have been as hard to bear. Do not increase her difficulties. A kind, conciliating word, a tender look, will do wonders in chasing from her brow all clouds and gloom. You encounter your difficulties in the open air, fanned by heaven's cool breezes, but your wife is often shut in from these healthful influences, and her health fails, and her spirits lose their elasticity. But bear with her, she has trials and sorrows to which you are a stranger, but which your tenderness can deprive of all their keenness.

Notice kindly her little attentions and efforts to promote your comfort. Do not take them all as matters of course, and pass them by, at the same time being very sure to observe any omission of what you may consider her duty to you. Do not treat her with indifference, if you would not sear and palsy a heart which, watered by gentleness and kindness, would, to

the latest day of your existence, throb with sincere and constant affection.

Sometimes yield your wishes to hers. She has preferences as strong as you, and it may be just as trying to her to yield her choice, as to you. Do you find it hard to yield sometimes? Think you it is not difficult for her to give up always? If you never yield to her wishes, there is danger that she will feel you are selfish, and care only for yourself; and, with such a feeling, she cannot love you as she ought. Again,

Show yourself manly, so that your wife can look up to you, and feel that you will act nobly, and that she can confide in your judgment.

Finally, where there is any difference between man and wife, let the contest not be who shall show the most spirit, but who shall make the first advances to reconciliation. Each should treat the other with the respect

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