longer detain you with an address of this nature: I cannot, however, conclude it without owning those great obligations which you have laid upon, SI R, YOUR MOST OBEDIENT, HUMBLE SERVANT, THE SPECTATOR. No. 190 A Description of jealousy It's cure, with the story of Herod and Mariamne 177 Description of a grinning match at Cole’s-hill 173 On the landed and trading interests. Description of a Jezebel ; letter from Jack Modifh 175 Letter from Nathaniel Henrooft, a henpeckt husband 176 On Good-nature ; with the character of Eugenius 177 Description of a wbi Aling match at Bath Letter from Philarithmus on the conquests of Lewis XIV.180 - from one who had married against her father's con- fent ; history of Eginhart and Imma On the usefulness of fable, with the marriage of Pleasure Account of Nicholas Hart the sleeper Description of a jilt hy Charles Yellow On the vanity of popular praise On the duties of parents and children Letter from Rebecca Nettletop, a girl of the town On loiteries, with a letter from George Gosling 191 On the affection of parents for ibeir children On the advantages of exercise and temperance Letters from T. B. and Biddy Loveless On the force of cuftom, zvith fome rules for conversation 197 On the danger of exposing ourselves to temptation 198 A contraft between a wife and a mifirefs On the mischiefs attending ambition in a prince 200 On the advantages of a religious education On the advantages of birth with a suitable behaviour 202 On debauching of girls, with theurbappy fate of baftards 203 The sentiments of Plato on prayer Onihe deprared taste of the public in their diverfrons 208 No 210 211 On the immortality of the foul 213 On punctuality and dependence 214 On education 215 Tom Maggot's account of Freeman's fuccefs 216 Description of the club of She-Romps 217 On reputation 218 The use of ambition when rightly directed 219 Letters, to an ungracious lover ; on authors, &c. 220 On the Motto's at the head and Marks at the end of each paper 221 On misapplication of talents 222 An account of the poetess Sappho, with her hymn to Venus223 On ambition 224 An essay on discretion 225 On Raphael's Cartons at Hampton-Court 226 A defcription of the Lover's Leap, with Davith ap Shenkyn's letter 227 On inquisitiveness 228 A fragment of Sappho, transated by Catullus, Boileau and Phillips 229 On benevolence and education 230 On modely 231 Onbeggars 232 History of the Lover's Leap 233 On a new species of lying, and on free-thinking 234 An account of the Trunkmaker in the upper gallery 235 On marriage, with a letter from Tristissa 236 On curiosity 237 On flattery 238 On the management of a debate 239 Letters on hercic virtue, good-breeding, &c. 240 On absence in love 241 On ill-manners. An affeding scene of distress, &c. 242 On virtue 243 On painting 244 On the knowledge of the world 245 On the nursing of children 246 On laughter 249 On female oratory 247 On the cries of LonOn generosity 248 don 250 Τ Η Ε SPECTATOR. N° 170. Friday, September 14, 1711. In amore hæc omnia insunt vilia : injuriæ, All these inconveniencies are incident to love : Re proaches, jealousies, quarrels, reconcilements, war, and then peace. UPON PON looking over the letters of my female correspondents, I find several from women complaining of jealous husbands, and at the same time protesting their own innocence; and desiring my advice on this occasion. I shall therefore take this subject into my confideration ; and the more willingly, because I find that the marquis of Hallifax, who, in his Advice to a Daughter, has instructed a wife how to behave herself towards a false, an intenıperate, a choleric, a sullen, a covetous, or a filly husband, has not spoken one word of a jealous husband. Jealousy is that pain which a man feels from the apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the person whom he intirely loves. Now because our inward pafsions and inclinations can never make themselves vifible, it is impoffible for a jealous man to be thoroughly cured of his suspicions. His thoughts hang at best in a state of doubtfulness and uncertainty; and are never capable of receiving any satisfaction on the advantageous side ; so that his inquiries are more successful when they discover nothing. His pleasure arises from his disappointments, ard his life is spent in pursuit of a secret that destroys his happiness if he chance to find it. An ardent love is always a strong ingredient in this paflion ; for the fame affection which stirs up the jealous man's desires, and gives the party beloved so beautiful a figure in his imagination, makes him believe the kindles the same passion in others, and appears as amiable to all beholders. And as jealousy thus arises from an extraordinary love, it is of to delicate a nature, that it fcorns to take up with any thing less than an equal return of love. Not the warmeit expressions of affection, the softest and moit tender hypocrisy, are able to give any fatisfaction, where we are not persuaded that the affection is real, and the satisfaction mutual. For the jealous man wishes himself a kind of deity to the person he loves : he would be the only pleasure of her senses, the employment of her thoughts ; and is angry at every thing the admires, or takes delight in, besides bimself Phædria's request to his mistress upon his leaving her for three days, is inimitably beautiful and natural. Cum milite isto præfens, abfens ut hes : TER. Eun. A&t. 1. Sc. 2. When you are in company with that soldier, behave if you were absent: but continue to love me by day and by night: want me ; dream of me; expect ine ; think of me; wish for me; delight in me : be wholly with me : in short, be my very soul, as I am yours.' The jealous man's disease is of fo malignant a nature, that it converts all he takes into its own nourishment. as |
